A Zen Mindset

In my previous post, I described how my sense of independence from others came about. Actually, since then I have reflected more deeply on the term ‘independence’, as it may have different connotations in different contexts. The independence I described is more of independence in interpersonal relationships. In spite of that, there are still areas where I can’t distance myself from my responsibilities. I had decided to leave a highly stressful job after months of consideration. Being single, there are…

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One of the traits about me is that I believe I am pretty independent. Maybe my independence was built up slowly like a shell to protect me when I was growing up. I am a sensitive person by nature, but I don’t like to show it. In school, I was quiet and studious, and I got pretty good grades. My school’s standard was pretty average, so it was relatively easy to excel. Maybe because of that, some classmates got jealous…

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Goodbyes are always difficult. Especially to objects and living things that we have grown so used to and taken for granted over time. One of my pet fishes died today. It had been looking unwell for a while, and I knew that my neglect in changing their water over time was probably partly (if not mainly) the cause. I felt guilty, but I knew that what had been done cannot be reversed. This was a price I had to pay…

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My partner and I live in different countries. The story of how we met and got together is pretty amazing, but I’ll save that for another day. We chat every day, and sometimes for hours on end without getting bored. I love the connection we have, it feels so natural and unlike any other relationship I’ve had with anyone else. We are very different individuals, and with not much in common on the surface. Yet our way of thinking and…

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No, this is not about Jane Austen’s book 😊 Rather, I wanted to discuss about the role of pride in shaping our behaviours, and also how prejudice can make us wrongly judge a person. I would say I have a fair amount of pride. Not vain pride, but more of things I am fairly proud of about myself. Such as how I make an effort to not abuse my body, or how I maintain certain professional standards about my work…

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Some people naturally look on the bright side of life, no matter what happens. There are also another type of people, who always manage to find faults even in a relatively good situation.   Having been around both, I’ll definitely prefer the first type. Life is tough enough on its own, but always looking for the worst in any situation must be a stressful and tiring way to live. I am not particularly optimistic by nature, yet I know the…

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